How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere

BelCai 2012-07-12 0

quite make sense with those common sense talking... but too common sense...

phoebe 2012-07-21 0

very good guide book for people who REALLY wants to improve communication skills, and also an useful book with learning for other aspects

杨小角 2013-03-03 0

CNN的老牌主持，这书写得还不错，几十年的经验和技能总结挺“真”的，对于PR同行人们，一定程度它能当工具书。那些自爆隐私光写成长经历装逼游记的艺人，真应该罚罪去戈壁种树！

孙冰 2011-07-24 0

很久以前读过今天听了个larry king参加的节目觉得应该再读一遍好书是值得温习的.

小羌 2010-01-02 0

最近一次是看dc做客的那一期，larry king真的蛮老了。

游鱼鱼இ 2013-01-01 0

可能会写的空洞的一本书，但是加上Larry自己丰富的主持经验也饶有趣味。

SchoolRayMelon 2012-12-17 0

The contents of this manual is not as attractive that I thought it suppose tobe in the first place as its name.But it enable me to build up a new cognition upon TALK which is not a grim obligation,a challenge,or a way of filling up time.It's a pleasure that life should have to offer.Success will always come back to the basics---Good connection

zoking 2017-01-20 0

即使读完，还是无法应用，只是在和陌生人交流过程中清晰认识到，哦哦(⊙o⊙)

下雪的雪 2011-07-28 0

挺失望的。内容太一般了，好像并没有多少Larry King自己很个人的经历和经验。

潜心修行 2014-07-27 0

交谈是个随时随地都可以联系的技巧，人人可以驾驭

艾習角™ 2012-04-05 1

记得听的有声书

枪气如虹 2014-09-12 1

a fundamental rule for good speaking in public is KISS, Keep It Simple, Stupid. btw, 54 people tagged this book as "commucation" while 10 "communication", seriously?

BelCai 2012-07-12 0

quite make sense with those common sense talking... but too common sense...

phoebe 2012-07-21 0

very good guide book for people who REALLY wants to improve communication skills, and also an useful book with learning for other aspects

杨小角 2013-03-03 0

CNN的老牌主持，这书写得还不错，几十年的经验和技能总结挺“真”的，对于PR同行人们，一定程度它能当工具书。那些自爆隐私光写成长经历装逼游记的艺人，真应该罚罪去戈壁种树！

孙冰 2011-07-24 0

很久以前读过今天听了个larry king参加的节目觉得应该再读一遍好书是值得温习的.

小羌 2010-01-02 0

最近一次是看dc做客的那一期，larry king真的蛮老了。

游鱼鱼இ 2013-01-01 0

可能会写的空洞的一本书，但是加上Larry自己丰富的主持经验也饶有趣味。

SchoolRayMelon 2012-12-17 0

The contents of this manual is not as attractive that I thought it suppose tobe in the first place as its name.But it enable me to build up a new cognition upon TALK which is not a grim obligation,a challenge,or a way of filling up time.It's a pleasure that life should have to offer.Success will always come back to the basics---Good connection

zoking 2017-01-20 0

即使读完，还是无法应用，只是在和陌生人交流过程中清晰认识到，哦哦(⊙o⊙)

我想说两句

A easy to read and very practical book

hishall 2012-05-22 0赞

Recommend

Guide book of conversation

日光倾城 2012-06-14 0赞

It is a book that you can read wherever you are , on bus , subway even lying on the sofa when you feel nothing to do.

This book is talking about Larry King who is a famous talk show emcee sharing his experience and sumarry in his carrer .Simple to read , easy to undestand.

However, because of its uncomplex content ,it may not contain as much vualeable information as I thought in the first place . Just some basic rules with breif explanation which make me a little bit disappointed .

It reminds me of a pharse " reasarch should mate with practice " ,I hope this book will be a useful guide book in my future life.

边看边记

lyla 2010-07-18 6赞

▓▓▓▓1. why people can be uncomfortable with talking:
●There's the fear of saying the wrong thing, or saying the right thing in the wrong way.

▓▓▓▓2. The basics of successful conversation:
●Honesty, ●The Right Attitude, ●Interest in the Other Person, ●Openness About Yourself
（1）就算天生的演讲能手也有后天雕琢的痕迹。什么都是可以练出来的。
（2）不要使自己时刻成为对话的主导方。可以适当用自己的喜好或故事引起话题，但不能过多，易引起反感。
（3）坦诚自己的情况。当自己在对话中不自信或状态不佳时，可以将自己的情况告诉对方或听众，让他人理解你的状态，这种坦诚可以减少你对交谈的畏惧。

▓▓▓▓3. Breaking the Ice: How to Talk to Strangers
●Overcoming shyness----yours and theirs
The person you are talking to puts his pants on one leg at a time.
Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours!
●Getting started
Weather, floods, earthquakes, their family, the occasion……
●Questions to avoid： yes/no questions
●The first rule of conversation: LISTEN
We never learn a thing while we are talking.
Careful listening makes you better able to respond.
To be interesting, to be interested.
●Body language
Be comfortable.
Make eye contact.
Worry about how well you are talking and let your body language take care of itself.
●Is anything taboo anymore?
You have to consider how intimately you know the people you are talking with to decide whether you can break those taboos.

▓▓▓▓4.Social Talk: Cocktail parties, Dinners,Weddings
●Ask questions is the secret of good communication.
●You'll be remembered as a better conversationalist if you ask the opinions of others around you.
●Don't monopolize the conversation.

▓▓▓▓5. Eight Things the Best Talkers Have in Common
●They look at things from a new angle, taking unexpected points of view on familiar subjects.
●They have broad horizons. They think about, and talk about, a wide range of issues and experiences beyond their own daily lives.
●They are enthusiastic, displaying a passion for what they're doing with their lives and an interest in what you're saying to them at the moment.
●They don't talk about themselves all the time.
●They are curious.They ask "why?"
●They empathize.They try to put themselves in your place, to relate to what you're saying.
●They have a sense of humor. And they don't mind using it on themselves. In fact, the best conversationalists frequently tell stories on themselves.
●They have their own style of talking.

▓▓▓▓6. Trendy Talk and Political Correctness
●Sometimes using one of these catchphrases will help you make a connection with someone you're talking to, but doing it often makes you sound unoriginal, as though you can't think up your own expression.

▓▓▓▓7.Business Talk
●Ways to break bad speech habits: listen to yourself, think ahead to what you're going to say.
●●Job Interviews:
●Show prospective employers what you can do for them.●Maintain an open attitude.●Be prepared.●Ask questions.
●●Meetings.
As a participant:●The less said, the better. ●Don't put others down. ●Be willing to ask dumb questions. ●Don't waste others' time.
Running a meeting:●Preparation. ●Start on time. ●Be decisive. ●Be firm.

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怎样说？好好说！

船长 2008-07-06 8赞

坦白地说，我没看过这书，我是用听的。
下了一套有声。LARRY KING 的嗓音没得说，语气节奏把握地收放自如，幽默激情地传授关于说的技巧。

书中说到他是如何在家里疯狂地练习表达，第一次做直播的口感舌燥语无伦次，他是如何作到让嘉宾因备受尊重而滔滔不绝，如何在PARTY上从容应对...

拉里金的声音对我这个喜欢英语的播音系的学生极具杀伤力，厚实的嗓音，富有激情的表达，充满韵律感的节奏，听他说话真是一大享受。虽说拉里金刚出道之时，也的确是靠着嗓音获得机会崭露头角的，但推动他事业发展的是他与人交流中自然流露出的热情，对对方的尊重，以诚待人，一种天生的沟通的欲望。

拉里金的激情，不仅在电视里，在任何时候。他在《怎样说》书中描述了自己在家中对着墙，来回走着说，去练习，去模仿，去假设一个场景考验自己，读到这，我因为与他有这相似的经历，对这个老头颇有好感。

《怎样说》这本书我是听的拉里金朗读版，那些富有感染力的话经他的口一说，好像你也就掌握了好的谈话的秘诀，说的渴望油然而生。

尊重，是拉里金拉近他人的诀窍，对他人所说的话有强烈的兴趣，但这不是装出来的，用他的话说即if you try it , you will fail ，一切的表达与提问都是建立在天然的真实上。拉里金对他人的尊重表现在眼神，倾听，举止，合适的提问。

Eyed contact is always important.拉里金在书中很郑重的说出这句话，在他的交流中也注意到这点。我注意到，他很会用眼神关照别人，在对方说话时，他总是很认真看着对方，让对方充分感受到尊重又不会紧张。

“我常常告诉自己，我这一天不会因为自己说了什么而学到什么，so, I ‘v got to listen” 拉里金对倾听格外看重，他的一大特点是用拳头顶着下巴做倾听状，“如果别人认为你对他的的话不感兴趣，无论你做怎样尝试，都不能赢得他们说的愿望”。当然，我相信倾听决不是一种看似认真的做派，而是认真、尊重下的自然状态。

美国版“蔡康永”的说话之道,

Hammer_ 2011-12-25 12赞

           We do it everyday, but talking to people, especially peple i don't know, can be a dauting challenge for me. Larry King shares his secrets of communciating confidently and effectively in any siuation in this book. There are simple techniques for getting your listeners on your side and getting your message across.

          As Larry King says, talk is the most essential form of human communication, the one that distinguishes us as a species.In fact, it's been estimated the average person speaks eighteen thousand words a day. So why not develop our skills to become the best talkers we can be?

         Let's start right now. Just buy a book and turn the page.

        Hey, Heribie, listen up！(^o^)/~

-----------------------------------------------

readingnote:

★（it's my favourite)

★1.It's true that talking has come naturally to me,but even those who have a natural ability for something have to work to develop it . That's what turns a talent into a skill.

2.Everyone is an expert on something,Everyone got at least one subject they love to talk about.

3.Whether the setting is social or professional, one of the first thing to accomplish in talking to people is to put them at ease.

4.The best way i have found to overcome shyness is to remind yourself of the old saying that the person you are taking to puts his pants on one leg at a time. The cliche is an effective way of illustrating that we are all human beings.

5. Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.

6.Stop-Look-Listen. Good follow-up questions are the mark of a good conversationalist.

★（每个人都是自恋狂哈！）7.Remember that the people you are taling to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.

8. Be natural. Speak from the heart.

★9.Today the key word in being successful in your social talk is relevance. Be open.Find the common ground with your partner. And, always, LISTEN!

10.The greatest question of all time; WHY?

11.If he or she isn't interested in the subjects that interest you ,exucse yourself politely. Then move on . There is bound to be someone else in the room who is more fun for you to talk to.

12. Whether you mean it or not, these remarks tell the celebrities that they are old.(想拿刀砍人了有木有。。。）

13.A common mistake in talking to celebrities is to stereotype them as people whoo don't know anything about anthing else escept thir professions.

14.Successful people are successful talkers, and vice versa.(or to say, most successful people are successful talkers. Not surprisingly ,the reverse is also true)

★15.

What the best talkers have in common.

a.They look at things form a new angle, takling unexpected point of view on familiar subjects.

b.They have broad horizon.They think about, and talk about , a wide range of issues and experiences beyond their own daily lives.

c. They are enthusiastic, displaying a passion for what they are doing with their lives and an interest in what you are saying to them at that moment.

d They don't about themselves all the time.

e.They are curious. They ask "Why"

f.They empathize. They try to put themselves in your place, to relate to what you are saying.

g. They have a sense of humor.(自嘲是一个很有用的技巧~）

h.They have their own style of talking.

★(不要一直很严肃，很无聊的）16.When i am giving a speech, one of my own cardinal rules is "Never stay too serious too long" That same applies to conversation, maybe more so.

17. That is an important point to remember about humor. Whatever your style of humor is , let it come into the conversation naturally. Professional comedians know that timeing is everything,and bringing everything to a halt so you can tell your gag is bad timing.

18.Sell the advantages of the product, not the features of the product.(it applies to another field too)

19.You are prepared, and you care.

20. Successful companies, just like successful people ,usually do not count modesty among their greatest virtues, nor are they immune to skillful flatteru.

21.Don't play games with your staff member. Have the professionalism, the integrity, and the guts to do it yourself.

★(有成功人士的架势和气场，没有也得有，嘿）22.Herd's point is that not only in your words, but you must exude an air of success, not one of desperation. By acting as if you are negotiating from strengthm you can gain the uper hand, even when your position is not a strong one.

★(政客技巧的用处）23.Every once in a while you may find yourself in a situation where a little vagueness might be to your advantage. Politcians, of course , have been doing this since the beginning of ime, answering questions with words that don;t really say anthing when they don;t wnat to be pinned down.

24. More notes on public speaking

a.be prepared.

b.passion

c.kiss=keep it simple, stuip.

--------------------------------

Larry king says, if there is one thing i hope you get out this book, it's an attitude about talk (态度，态度！！）

Talk should not be a challenge. Think of every conversation as an opportunity,

Keep talking！！做个话唠！！

2011.12.25

圣诞快乐！

写完书评，去诳街诺！(^o^)/~

by hammer

美国版“蔡康永”的说话之道,

Hammer_ 2011-12-25 12

           We do it everyday, but talking to people, especially peple i don't know, can be a dauting challenge for me. Larry King shares his secrets of communciating confidently and effectively in any siuation in this book. There are simple techniques for getting your listeners on your side and getting your message across.

          As Larry King says, talk is the most essential form of human communication, the one that distinguishes us as a species.In fact, it's been estimated the average person speaks eighteen thousand words a day. So why not develop our skills to become the best talkers we can be?

         Let's start right now. Just buy a book and turn the page.

        Hey, Heribie, listen up！(^o^)/~

-----------------------------------------------

readingnote:

★（it's my favourite)

★1.It's true that talking has come naturally to me,but even those who have a natural ability for something have to work to develop it . That's what turns a talent into a skill.

2.Everyone is an expert on something,Everyone got at least one subject they love to talk about.

3.Whether the setting is social or professional, one of the first thing to accomplish in talking to people is to put them at ease.

4.The best way i have found to overcome shyness is to remind yourself of the old saying that the person you are taking to puts his pants on one leg at a time. The cliche is an effective way of illustrating that we are all human beings.

5. Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.

6.Stop-Look-Listen. Good follow-up questions are the mark of a good conversationalist.

★（每个人都是自恋狂哈！）7.Remember that the people you are taling to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.

8. Be natural. Speak from the heart.

★9.Today the key word in being successful in your social talk is relevance. Be open.Find the common ground with your partner. And, always, LISTEN!

10.The greatest question of all time; WHY?

11.If he or she isn't interested in the subjects that interest you ,exucse yourself politely. Then move on . There is bound to be someone else in the room who is more fun for you to talk to.

12. Whether you mean it or not, these remarks tell the celebrities that they are old.(想拿刀砍人了有木有。。。）

13.A common mistake in talking to celebrities is to stereotype them as people whoo don't know anything about anthing else escept thir professions.

14.Successful people are successful talkers, and vice versa.(or to say, most successful people are successful talkers. Not surprisingly ,the reverse is also true)

★15.

What the best talkers have in common.

a.They look at things form a new angle, takling unexpected point of view on familiar subjects.

b.They have broad horizon.They think about, and talk about , a wide range of issues and experiences beyond their own daily lives.

c. They are enthusiastic, displaying a passion for what they are doing with their lives and an interest in what you are saying to them at that moment.

d They don't about themselves all the time.

e.They are curious. They ask "Why"

f.They empathize. They try to put themselves in your place, to relate to what you are saying.

g. They have a sense of humor.(自嘲是一个很有用的技巧~）

h.They have their own style of talking.

★(不要一直很严肃，很无聊的）16.When i am giving a speech, one of my own cardinal rules is "Never stay too serious too long" That same applies to conversation, maybe more so.

17. That is an important point to remember about humor. Whatever your style of humor is , let it come into the conversation naturally. Professional comedians know that timeing is everything,and bringing everything to a halt so you can tell your gag is bad timing.

18.Sell the advantages of the product, not the features of the product.(it applies to another field too)

19.You are prepared, and you care.

20. Successful companies, just like successful people ,usually do not count modesty among their greatest virtues, nor are they immune to skillful flatteru.

21.Don't play games with your staff member. Have the professionalism, the integrity, and the guts to do it yourself.

★(有成功人士的架势和气场，没有也得有，嘿）22.Herd's point is that not only in your words, but you must exude an air of success, not one of desperation. By acting as if you are negotiating from strengthm you can gain the uper hand, even when your position is not a strong one.

★(政客技巧的用处）23.Every once in a while you may find yourself in a situation where a little vagueness might be to your advantage. Politcians, of course , have been doing this since the beginning of ime, answering questions with words that don;t really say anthing when they don;t wnat to be pinned down.

24. More notes on public speaking

a.be prepared.

b.passion

c.kiss=keep it simple, stuip.

--------------------------------

Larry king says, if there is one thing i hope you get out this book, it's an attitude about talk (态度，态度！！）

Talk should not be a challenge. Think of every conversation as an opportunity,

Keep talking！！做个话唠！！

2011.12.25

圣诞快乐！

写完书评，去诳街诺！(^o^)/~

by hammer

怎样说？好好说！

船长 2008-07-06 8

坦白地说，我没看过这书，我是用听的。
下了一套有声。LARRY KING 的嗓音没得说，语气节奏把握地收放自如，幽默激情地传授关于说的技巧。

书中说到他是如何在家里疯狂地练习表达，第一次做直播的口感舌燥语无伦次，他是如何作到让嘉宾因备受尊重而滔滔不绝，如何在PARTY上从容应对...

拉里金的声音对我这个喜欢英语的播音系的学生极具杀伤力，厚实的嗓音，富有激情的表达，充满韵律感的节奏，听他说话真是一大享受。虽说拉里金刚出道之时，也的确是靠着嗓音获得机会崭露头角的，但推动他事业发展的是他与人交流中自然流露出的热情，对对方的尊重，以诚待人，一种天生的沟通的欲望。

拉里金的激情，不仅在电视里，在任何时候。他在《怎样说》书中描述了自己在家中对着墙，来回走着说，去练习，去模仿，去假设一个场景考验自己，读到这，我因为与他有这相似的经历，对这个老头颇有好感。

《怎样说》这本书我是听的拉里金朗读版，那些富有感染力的话经他的口一说，好像你也就掌握了好的谈话的秘诀，说的渴望油然而生。

尊重，是拉里金拉近他人的诀窍，对他人所说的话有强烈的兴趣，但这不是装出来的，用他的话说即if you try it , you will fail ，一切的表达与提问都是建立在天然的真实上。拉里金对他人的尊重表现在眼神，倾听，举止，合适的提问。

Eyed contact is always important.拉里金在书中很郑重的说出这句话，在他的交流中也注意到这点。我注意到，他很会用眼神关照别人，在对方说话时，他总是很认真看着对方，让对方充分感受到尊重又不会紧张。

“我常常告诉自己，我这一天不会因为自己说了什么而学到什么，so, I ‘v got to listen” 拉里金对倾听格外看重，他的一大特点是用拳头顶着下巴做倾听状，“如果别人认为你对他的的话不感兴趣，无论你做怎样尝试，都不能赢得他们说的愿望”。当然，我相信倾听决不是一种看似认真的做派，而是认真、尊重下的自然状态。

边看边记

lyla 2010-07-18 6

▓▓▓▓1. why people can be uncomfortable with talking:
●There's the fear of saying the wrong thing, or saying the right thing in the wrong way.

▓▓▓▓2. The basics of successful conversation:
●Honesty, ●The Right Attitude, ●Interest in the Other Person, ●Openness About Yourself
（1）就算天生的演讲能手也有后天雕琢的痕迹。什么都是可以练出来的。
（2）不要使自己时刻成为对话的主导方。可以适当用自己的喜好或故事引起话题，但不能过多，易引起反感。
（3）坦诚自己的情况。当自己在对话中不自信或状态不佳时，可以将自己的情况告诉对方或听众，让他人理解你的状态，这种坦诚可以减少你对交谈的畏惧。

▓▓▓▓3. Breaking the Ice: How to Talk to Strangers
●Overcoming shyness----yours and theirs
The person you are talking to puts his pants on one leg at a time.
Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours!
●Getting started
Weather, floods, earthquakes, their family, the occasion……
●Questions to avoid： yes/no questions
●The first rule of conversation: LISTEN
We never learn a thing while we are talking.
Careful listening makes you better able to respond.
To be interesting, to be interested.
●Body language
Be comfortable.
Make eye contact.
Worry about how well you are talking and let your body language take care of itself.
●Is anything taboo anymore?
You have to consider how intimately you know the people you are talking with to decide whether you can break those taboos.

▓▓▓▓4.Social Talk: Cocktail parties, Dinners,Weddings
●Ask questions is the secret of good communication.
●You'll be remembered as a better conversationalist if you ask the opinions of others around you.
●Don't monopolize the conversation.

▓▓▓▓5. Eight Things the Best Talkers Have in Common
●They look at things from a new angle, taking unexpected points of view on familiar subjects.
●They have broad horizons. They think about, and talk about, a wide range of issues and experiences beyond their own daily lives.
●They are enthusiastic, displaying a passion for what they're doing with their lives and an interest in what you're saying to them at the moment.
●They don't talk about themselves all the time.
●They are curious.They ask "why?"
●They empathize.They try to put themselves in your place, to relate to what you're saying.
●They have a sense of humor. And they don't mind using it on themselves. In fact, the best conversationalists frequently tell stories on themselves.
●They have their own style of talking.

▓▓▓▓6. Trendy Talk and Political Correctness
●Sometimes using one of these catchphrases will help you make a connection with someone you're talking to, but doing it often makes you sound unoriginal, as though you can't think up your own expression.

▓▓▓▓7.Business Talk
●Ways to break bad speech habits: listen to yourself, think ahead to what you're going to say.
●●Job Interviews:
●Show prospective employers what you can do for them.●Maintain an open attitude.●Be prepared.●Ask questions.
●●Meetings.
As a participant:●The less said, the better. ●Don't put others down. ●Be willing to ask dumb questions. ●Don't waste others' time.
Running a meeting:●Preparation. ●Start on time. ●Be decisive. ●Be firm.

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A easy to read and very practical book

hishall 2012-05-22 0

Recommend

Guide book of conversation

日光倾城 2012-06-14 0

It is a book that you can read wherever you are , on bus , subway even lying on the sofa when you feel nothing to do.

This book is talking about Larry King who is a famous talk show emcee sharing his experience and sumarry in his carrer .Simple to read , easy to undestand.

However, because of its uncomplex content ,it may not contain as much vualeable information as I thought in the first place . Just some basic rules with breif explanation which make me a little bit disappointed .

It reminds me of a pharse " reasarch should mate with practice " ,I hope this book will be a useful guide book in my future life.

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