How to make people like you
小满 2010-04-28
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Man, there are so much to learn in communication...This book is a pretty good guildline for establishing rapport, that is, to form harmony with other people. The author also read the audio book for you. So have a try.
Some of the skills are easy and obvious. The right attitude, the attention, the curiosity... There are also useful tips, such as the KFC: Know what you what, Find the other person's attitude, Change what you're doing until you get the result. I think it's no doubt important to know the purpose of your conversation. Otherwise you are wasting your time. Also there are such sense-preference that can set apart different people: Visual(what do you see), Auditory(hear), and Kinesthetic(how you feel). I find myself an Auditory of course. I enjoy so much in listening to the audio book. (And I often "talk" to myself rather than "see" a picture in my head.) While must of my friends are V. Girls tend to choose K after V. (That's why we are so "touchy") And you have to synchronize with them to creat the right atmosphere. Follow the trace of their thought, and give positive responses from time to time. People like people who like themselves.
The most interesting note is that when you connecting with people, you also creat connections inside your mind. That makes you brighter and stronger, miraculously.
I think I need to do more practice...