二十岁时，除了恋爱，其实我们啥都不知道

          the author shares fascinating examples, of individuals defying expectations, challenging assumptions, and achieving amazing success in this book.

        i am in my 20s right now, and i consider myself fortunate to read this book about how to throw out the old rules and provide a new model for reaching our highest potential,how to have a healthy disregard for the impossible, how to recover from failure, and how most problems are remarkable opportunities in disguise.


        I knew these sort of things when i was 20, so, what will happen and what shall i turn out to be? Perhaps nothing will happen without actually implementing all the inspiring advices and tips.

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★(my favourite)


★1.First, opportunity are abundant.At any place and time you can look around and identify problems that need solving. The bigger the problem, the bigger the opportunity. Nobody will pay you to solve a non-problem.

Second, regardless of the size of the problem, there are usually creative ways to use the resources already at your disposal to solve
them. An entrepreneur is someone who is always on the lookout for problems that can be turned into oppourtunities and finds creative ways to leverage limited resources to reach their goals.


third, we so often frame problems too tightly. we should step back and look at the problem more broadly.

2.Gracefully bridging that gap to tackle real-world challeges can be extremely difficult, but it;s doable with the right tools and mind-set.


★3.After you leave school, you are you own teacher, charg with figuring out what you need to know, where to find the information, and how to absorb it. In fact, real life is the ultimate open book exam.

★4.In fact, failure is an important part of life's learning process. Just as evolution is a series of trial-and-error experiments, life is full of false starts and inevitable stumbling. The key to success is the ability to extract the lessons our of each of these experiences and to move on with that new knowledge.

5.It's helpful to know that we don't have to be right the first time. Life presends everyone with many opportunities to experiment and recombine our skills and passions in new and surprising ways.

6.It's much more comfortable to stay locked in a role that's "good enough" than to reach for an alternative that has a higher degree of uncertainty.Most of us are content taking small,reliable steps. We don't get very far, but we don't rock the boat either.

★7. If your goal is to make meaning by trying to solve a big problem in innovative ways, you are more likely to make money that if you start with the goal of making money, in which case you will probably not make money or meaning,.


8.The concept that there are no bad idea is a hallmark of good brainstorming, You need to break with the assumption that ideas need to be feasible in order to be vaulable.


9.Since everyone in the room had a chance to participate and witnessed the emergence and evolution of all the ideas, there is usually shared support for the ideas that go forward implementation.


10.it is important to remember that idea generation involves exploration of the landscape of possibilities. The goal is to break the rules by imaging a world where the laws of nature are different and all constraints are removed. At that time you can view the idea with a more critical.


11.At the very least they got useful customer feedback and at best they found a new employee.


★12,Some rules are in place to protect our safety, to keep order, and create a process that works for a large number of people. But it is worth questioning rules alone the way.

Another way to break the rules is to break free of expectation you have for yourself and that others have for you.



★13.The well-worn path is there for everyone to trample. But the interesting thing often occur when you open to taking an unexpected turn, to trying something different, and when you are willing to question the rules others have made for you. All agreed that it is easy to stay on the prescribed path, but it is often much more interesting to discover the world of surprise lurking just around the corner.


★14.The more you experiment, the more you see that the spectrum of options is much broader than imagined. The sole rule is that you are limited only by your energy and imagination.


★15.Nobody told me i could do or should do this, I just did.


Over time, i have became increasingly aware that the world is divided into people who wait for others to give them permission to do the things they want to do and people who grant themselves permission. Some look inside themselves for motivation and others wait to be pushed forward by outside forces.


16. One of the best ways to move from one field to another is to figure out how your skills can be translated into different setting.


★17.Those willing to strech the boundaries of their current skills and willing to risk trying something new are much more likely to be successful than those who believe they have a fixed skill set and inate abilities that lock them into specific roles.


18. If you study each situation with an eye for improvement, you will find countless opportunities. It is then up to you to decide if you will put yourself in the position to take on that challenge.


19.People who get to the top work harder than those around them, they have more energy that propels them forward, and they are markedly more driven to get there.


★20. If you want a leadership role, then take on leadership roles. Just give yourself permission to do so. Look around for holes in your organaztion, ask for what you want, find ways to leverage your skills and experiences, be willing to make the first move, and stretch beyond what you have done before.

It takes hard work, energy, and drive--but these are the assets that set learder apart form those who wait for others to anoint them


21.I wish i had found a way to better align our goals.


22. i learned that there are some things you can't undo, and that in situations such as these i should do what is right for me, not neccessarily what others want me to do.


★23. You can read as many books on leadership as you want, but until you experience the challenges that face real leaders, you will never be prepared to take charge.


★24.Quitting is actually incredibly empowering . It's a reminder that you control the siuation and can leave whenever you like. We are taught that quitting is a sign of weakness, although in many circustances , it;s just the opposite. Sometimes quitting is the bravest alternative, because it requires you to face your faliures and announce them publicly.


So quitting is hard--but it's even harder to do it well. Failure is inevitable, and that the key to success is not dodging every bullet but being able to recover quickly.




25.It's important to know whether you are putting energy into something that has the potential to pay off.


26.If you get out there and try lots of things, you are much more likely to find success than someone who waits around for the phone to ring.


★27.The fact that learing from others can significantly reduce your failure rate. You don't have to figure everything out yourself.Like Stanley,you should gather all the data you can from your enviroment, and then tap intio the wisdom of those who have gone before you, in order to make the best possilbe choice. All you need to do is look around to see hundreds , if not thousands , of role models for every choice you plan to make.


★28.If you do take a risk and happen to fail, remember that you personally are not a failure. The failure is external. This perspective will allow you to get up and try again and again. Keep in mind that failure is a natural part of the learning process. if you aren't failing sometimes. then you probably aren't taking enough risks.


29.Passions are just a starting point. You also need to know your talents and how the world values them.


30.After scanning the horizon for other options, it became pretty clear that he would fit weel into the world of management cosulting.

★31.It's important to keep experimenting ,trying lots of things until you find out what works. Being too set on your path too early will likely lead you in the wrong direction,

★32There are so many unexpected experiences ahead that it's best to keep your eyes open instead of blinding yourself to the serendipitous options that might present themselves.

The road ahead,however, is always fuzzu and full of boundless uncertainly. It's easy to get frustrated by the lack of visibility ahead. You can, however, do things to increase the odds that great opportunities will come your way.


33.It's both physically and emotionally demanding, and incredibly time comsuming.


★★34.Finding the right roles requires experimenting alone the way, trying lots of different alternatives, testing the messages you get both explicitly and imexplicitly from the world, and pushing back on those that just don't feel right.

As you move through your career, you wll be well served by frequently reassessing where you are and where you want to go. Doing so allows you to make course corrections quickly,expecially when things don't turn out as lanned or exceptional new opportunities arise. And finally, be wary of all career advice, including mine, as you figure out what's right for you.


★35. Even if there's a low probability of success and a tremendous amount of competition, you can maximize your chances by being well prepared physically, intellectually and emotionally.


36.You never know when your experiences will prove to be valuable.


★37.Things about how you want to tell the story in the future is a great way to assess your response to dilemmas in general. Craft the story now so you'll be proud to tell it later.


★38.In general, to negotiate effectively you should work to understand your own goals as well as the goals of the other party,attempt to come up with a win-win outcome,and know when to walk away.

When you ask others if you can help, they are always pleased that you offered. Even when you turn them down, they are grateful that you offered and graciously accept the fact that you are't able to help.

★39.And do the right thing as opposed to the smart thing, so you'll be proud to tell your story later. Finally, don't take on too much, lest you disappoint yourself and those who count on you.

★40.Making excuses , or giving reasons for not delivering, is socially acceptable because it make you sound "reasonable". But even if you feel obliged to make excuses to others,you shouldn't makethem to yourself.

You are in charge of your own life. You have no excuse for delivering anything short of your best effort at all times.


★41 Being fabulous comes in many falvors, but it all starts with removing cap and being willing to reach for your true potential. This means going beyond minimum expectations and acknowledgeing that you are ultimately responsible for your action and the resulting outcomes. Life isn't a dress rehearsal, and you won't get a second chance to do your best.


★★42.We should not take ourselves too serious or judge others too harshly.

43.Your power comes from the position you hold. When you are no longer in that position, all that goes with it quickly fades away. Therefore, you should not define yourself by your current position nor believe all your own press. Savor the spotlight when you have it, but be ready to yield center stage when it's time to go.


★★★44. Uncertainty is the essence of life, and it fuels opportunity.To be honest, there are still days when i am not sure which road to take and am overwhelmed by the coices unfolding in front of me. But i now know that uncertainty is the fire that sparks innovation and the engine that drives us forward.


I experinced in my twenties when i looked ahead, not knowing what lay around the next curve. I wish someone had told me to embrace that uncertainty.The most interesting things happen when you get off the predictable path, when you challenge assumptions, and when you give yourself permission to see the world as opportunity rich and full of possiblity.


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I share one saying in the book " Never miss an opportunity to be fabulous" for everyone looking to make their mark on the world.

And good luck ：）


2011.12.14 by hammer