How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
2012-09-12
FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY
RULE 1: if you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in "day-tight compartments". don't stew about the future. just live each day until bedtime.
RULE 2: the next time Trouble--with a capital T--comes gunning for you and backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
a. ask yourself, "what is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?"
b. prepare urself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.
c. then calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
RULE 3: remind urself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."
---------------------------------------------------------------
BASIC TECHNIQUES IN ANALYZING WORRY
RULE 1: Get the facts. remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "half the worry in the world is caused by ppl trying to make decisions be4 they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."
RULE 2: after carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
RULE 3: once a decision is carefully reached, act! get busy carrying out ur decision--and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
RULE 4: when u, or any of ur associaties are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:
a. what is the problem?
b. what is the cause of the problem?
c. what are all possible solutions?
d. what is the best solution?
-------------------------------------------------
HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABBIT BE4 IT BREAKS U
RULE 1: crowd worry out of ur mind by keeping busy. plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers".
RULE 2: don't fuss about trifles. don't permit little things--the mere termites of life--to ruin ur happiness.
RULE 3: use the law of averages to outlaw ur worries. ask urself:" what are the odds against this thing's happening at all?"
RULE 4: co-operate with the inevitable. if you know a circumstance is beyond ur power to change or revise, say to urself "it is so; t cannot be otherwise."
RULE 5: put a "stop-loss" order on ur worries. decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worthand refuse to give it any more.
RULE 6: let the past bury its dead. don't saw sawdust.
-------------------------------------------------
SEVEN WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING U PEACE AND HAPPINESS
RULE 1: let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courages, health, and hope, for "our life is what out thoughts make it".
RULE 2: let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. let's do as General Eisenhower does: let's never waste a minute thinking about ppl we dont like.
RULE 3:
A. instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. let's remember the Jesus healed ten leper in one day--and only one thanked Him. why should we expect more gratitude than Jesus got?
B. let's remember that the only way to find happiness is not expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.
C. lets remember the gratitude is a "cultivated" trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
RULE 4: count ur blessings--not ur troubles!
RULE 5: lets not imitate others. lets find ourselves and be ourselves, for "envy is ignorance" and "imitation is suicise".
RULE 6: when fate hands us a lemon, lets try to make a lemonade.
RULE 7: lets forget our own unhappiness--by trying to create a little happiness for others. 'when you are good to others, u r best to urself.'
----------------------------------------------------------------------
HOW TO KEEP FROM WORRYING ABOUT CRITICISM
RULE 1: unjust criticism is often a disgusting compliment. it often means that you have aroused jealousy and ency. remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
RULE 2: do the very best u can; and then put up ur old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of ur neck.
RULE 3: lets keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticise ourselves. since we cant hope to be perfect, lets do what E.H.Little did: lets ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.
----------------------------------------------------------------------
SIX WAYS TO PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRY AND KEEP UR ENERGY AND SPIRITS HIGH
RULE 1: rest before u get tired.
RULE 2: learn to relax at ur work.
RULE 3: if u r a housewife, protect ur health and appearance by relaxing at home.
RULE 4: apply these four good working habits
a. clear ur desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
b. do thind in the order of their importance.
c. when u face a problem, solve it then and there if u have the facts necessary to make a decision.
d. learn to organise, deputise, and supervise.
RULE 5: to prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into ur work.
RULE 6: remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. it is worrying about insomnia that does the damage--not the insomnia.
查字典图书网