I like a lot American comedians. They are funny, witty and smart and they can often say something relate to you, enlighten you, sometimes let you have a new perspective on your life. So I always go for the self-books written by those people, trying to rediscover myself without reading boring to death lecture. Again this is another book I have got from last year's Shanghai Book Fair. My sister picked it for me cuz she thought it may be a good book on relationship that all women should know about, whether she is a newbie or an expert in this field. I didn't start reading it until this year after going through some terrible experience, you know what it is. So i picked up this book and decided to see what it could bring me instead.
The first two chapters are really well written. The author tells women how to find the right one from the view point of a man. If your man stick to the 3Ps in your relationship, then he is a catch. 3P stands for professing, providing and protecting. Yes, if your man can't wait to tell the world that you are his girl, or providing everything you need and protecting you when you are in potential danger, then you shall not wait too long to give him a definite answer. At first, I don't think there are a lot of man can fit in this category. But on a second thought, this might be some truth behind it. Now just take a look at the aboriginal society, men fought each other for their mates, providing food for the family and protected them from getting hurt from other beasts or something. So this is how men are. They are evolved and taught like this. You may think that we are in a modern society and women shall be independent to win man's respect. Yes, that is right. But don't forget it's one thing that independent women ask you not to give her too much, but it is another if you are not willing to show 3P to your women.
If you see your man only wants to be with you secretively, or being stingy on money or gets away as fast as he can when you need his help, then this man is fishing woman, and he doesn't see you together in the big picture and has no plans for you. If this is the case, you should no longer waste your time on him and find someone else for your own sake no matter how much you love him. Cuz this man is either a real man or doesn't love you at all and worst of all, you are in an unbalanced relationship.
Other than that, the author also tells me a lot about how to tell a man is fishing or wants to be in a committed relationship with you. Actually it is not that hard to find that out. Any women with enough self-esteem will know if her man is playing games.
Also, he says that there are only three things men want from woman in an exclusive relationship: that is support, loyalty and cookie. Men do not need anything else, so women, bear that in mind that all real men only wants these three things. If they ask for your money, caring about how much you earn and social status, then he is using you and you should never let him get to you.
When a man approaches a woman, he is after something for sure. And during the process of dating and knowing each other, he is also processing if you are the one for him. So, women need to show your men you have self esteem and also set standards for them at the early stage of your dating. Like you want to be treated like a lady, you do not tolerate cheating, and you do not accept lies. And for doing it better, you can ask your man these five essential questions:1 Ask him about his short term goal. 2. Ask him about his long term goal. 3 Ask him about his view of relationship. 4 Asking him how he think of you. 5 Asking him how he feels about you.
These five questions will immediately give you an answer about who he is , who he does, how much he makes and his feelings for you. You will have a better understanding of this man, whether he is responsible, hard working, respecting people and most important, loving you. If you men reply question four like this, I think you are nice, but can't not go the specific about what makes him feel you are nice, then he has trouble of remember the best quality of you, then you also have to give him a second chance.
Oh, man. Love can be simple, love can be complicated. If you are with the right one, you are sure to have a simple and healthy relationship. But if you are always struggling with the wrong person, then you should get out ASAP, cuz this will soon wear you down.
Overall I give this book a 4 out of 5, cuz it's fun and educating for all women readers.